Why I don’t attend church more often

church silhouetteThere are things about church that I like in general. I like the peacefulness, the music, and sometimes the sermons. I like being part of a group of people all centered on the same thought or emotions. The church around the corner does good works, offers a sense of community, etc. The pastor is really trying to make the church welcoming, and sees the church as part of the equal rights struggle. All well and good.

I just wish people on the GLBTQ (and friends) committee wouldn’t come up to me and say, “You know what I like about gay people? You’re all so happy and throw the best parties,” thinking that I’ll be delighted with their openness.

Ahem: I haven’t thrown any parties, rave music isn’t played in my house, I have yet to deploy my butterfly wings in chapel, and I don’t wear rainbow antenna to church. Instead, I’m a kind of average singer who brings food for the food pantry, and who is normally good-natured, except about her commute. Am I just being crabby here? Or would it be appropriate to just say, “What I love about straight people is they have children so I don’t have to.”? Or leave the committee after politely saying, “Screaming now?”. That might leave the committee with just “friends” though. And they mean well, bless their little hearts. (BTW: This conversation didn’t happen recently. It’s just simmering up again as I realize that more U.S. states than not have anti-citizen legislation that makes it illegal for a certain group of consenting adults to marry or have rights.)

4 Responses to “Why I don’t attend church more often”

  1. 1 Purlewe August 6, 2009 at 10:01 am

    I’ve been thinking about this all nite. I think maybe you might want to talk to the pastor about this. Simply wanting to be good in the world but not acknowledging that you have prejudice (anyone who says “*** people” has some kind of prejudice) I personally would start responding with the straight people thing you said above.. simply to show them that those kinds of words are not aceptible. It is odd the pastor hasn’t noticed that.

    • 2 wordtapestry August 11, 2009 at 9:50 pm

      The pastor wasn’t necessarily in the room when this sort of thing gets said. At least in this case, no one has introduced me to the person I live with.

  2. 3 williamthecoroner August 24, 2009 at 3:43 pm

    Of course, getting introduced to the person you live with gives you an unprecedented way to play with their heads. Either grab her and plant one on her or do a stooge move. It’s all good really.

    Yanno, probably the best way is to not think about what people do with their wobbly bits and worry about people. A gentle reminder is appropriate.

    • 4 wordtapestry August 24, 2009 at 11:35 pm

      Ah, yes. I guess that would be emotional shock and awe… eh?
      I think in a church, perhaps, I might just settle for the other option you offer of gentle words.

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